Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

November 14, 2010

Sunday Snippets. Idiots everywhere!

"I did not give her a copy of my cartoon. I mentioned it in conversation along with several other ideas (hers as well) that we talked about for cartoons. She drew the cartoon herself. I have not seen it. Do you think that other students are not talking to their friends and maybe even their parents about ideas for cartoons?"

This was the response I got from XSU in reply to an email I sent him telling him that Rebel Junior took an idea of his and made it her own for her philosophy class. The students were told to either write an essay about something or come up with a cartoon that had a philosophical bent to it. When RJ told her father about the assignment he *pulled out* a sheaf of drawings he had - one of which RJ made her own. NOt really plagiarising but not her own original idea either. XSU showed her his drawings, so he's lied. I think that RJ has taken the easy way out by *embellishing* on his idea rather than coming up with her own thoughts and he sees nothing wrong with that. UNbelieveable! sigh... IDIOT!

As usual, he completely missed my point. That being said- she should have come up with her own ideas instead of using something of his. I already see him "helping" her with university essays down the road.

I'm reading a novel called "The good divorce guide" by Cristina Odone. A British novel - chicklit kind of thing. Mostly enjoying it and would love to help the main character throttle her ex the man who left the stay at home mom for the flashy woman at work. IDIOT! And Rosie finds a man.... post divorce. But then again, she's not yet 40 never mind a tad over 50.

Not that I am looking because I am not. Not yet anyway. I am of the opinion what will be will be. I am still learning to be on my own, even though it's been a year. I had dinner with a friend of mine who separated last year as well. She's been in two relationships already. Both have been a bust. IDIOT factor at work again.

We had a long heart to heart about her experiences. I suggested to her that she needed to stop worrying about having a man in her life and start figuring out who she was as a person, as a woman and think about getting to know herself. Turns out her counsellor had had her come to the same conclusion that week as well. Pay me the $150 an hour instead! AND her best friend also echoed our thoughts. It is tough though because one worries about being alone But I mantain that if you know yourself, like yourself, and are comfortable in your own skin, the type of person you attract will be very different that what otherwise comes to you if time isn't spent reflecting.

The sore back has been slowing me down. The physio therapist told me - not the sacroiliac joint at all but rather a compressed disc at the bottom of my spine that is causing the radiating pain. It seems I will now have to do back exercises for life. So I move slowly. And carefully. No high heels for a while either. THAT'S really cramping my style.

I am hoping that this year I can manage to get the house decorated for Christmas a little earlier than a few days before Christmas Eve, my usual M.O. The Christmas boxes are in the far corner of the basement, surrounded by a bunch of other crap. It will take some moving of stuff around, and perhaps it will mean actually getting some of it cleared out instead. Will see how that goes. Now to find someone to hang the outdoor lights before the weather gets really ugly.

Hope your week goes well.





November 02, 2010

Crack of dawn and Marie do not go together

I think Blondie had a good comment on my last post. Facebook is killing the blog to some degree. We part time bloggers post updates on our FB profiles and then figure what ELSE do I have to say. Especially when you're me and you post on FB using one name and then have another name on the blog. Seems to work for me most of the time, and while I prefer my anonymous blogging, I have let it be known that I do blog. People keep asking for the link but there's just too much out there that I would rather not some people know too much about!

So, as my mood ranges, I shall continue.

Lying sick in bed last week has caused a recurrence of the SI joint pain. OY do I feel the pain. And I am going to be lugging a suitcase through train stations this week - should prove to be a bit of a challenge. I have found that walking seems to improve it a lot so I once this cold has run its course I can get on the treadmill when RJ isn't on it.

Off to Montreal I go tomorrow. The laptop is coming with me, so perhaps I'll post, and perhaps not. Union conference - which because of my job - I am now more involved with that business. It's most interesting because I see and hear about issues in the organization that I wouldn't have known about. Sometimes that's a good thing, but it does give me visibility. And I am not shy so I do speak up. Not sure how much of Montreal I'll get to see this trip - perhaps a decent restaurant or three. No time or money for shopping.

This morning I met with a group I used to belong to called the Women's Network Breakfast. We used to meet monthly at 7:30 am for networking, work support mentoring - a great group of women. The group has existed for over 30 years but is starting to flounder. Those of us who've been around for some time met for a reunion of sorts. Most of the women are about 10-15years older than me, so many have retired, many are still working at really great projects and jobs. This bunch was the first real career oriented women and made a mark. Many are either divorced widowed and /or remarried. We had great laughs. Pictures to come on my Facebook page soon enough. It looks like we're going to try and meet a few times a year. I don't miss the 5:30 AM wake up call to get me to the breakfasts but in their time, they were a great boost for me.

I am totally wiped today from being up at the crack of dawn, not packed for my trip so I think I will go to bed early and get up early and pack in the morning before going to work. Don't think I'm cut out for this crack of dawn stuff. Probably doesn't help that standard time hasn't kicked in so it is still dark at 7:30 am which is odd. Sun makes a difference.