Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

October 18, 2009

The Buck Stops Here

I have spent the weekend schelpping stuff either up or downstairs.  I am trying to empty the dining room of stuff from the basement and then shifting other stuff around in the other rooms as my windows are finally being replaced this week.  I don't like the idea of these *guys* traipsing through my house - every room in my house - but how else are they gonna get the job done.   My main floor is slowly getting back to being a real living and dining room.  I need to have a garage sale but the season is done.  So the stuff in my garage might just get hauled away by some charity or other.  I don't believe I'd make much money.  I am going to post a few things on our employee forum for sale board at work and see if I can unload a few things.

I called XSU to find out if or when the girls were coming back.  I asked what consequences he imposed on RJ over her skipping classes.  AS expected - not much of anything from his blah blah blah.  "I told her she had to go apologize to the history teacher."  big whoop.  I told him I left a message for the history teacher and the Athletics Assocation teacher and that they were to throw the book at her.  No more leaving classes to take photos at sports tournaments, no skipping classes at all, or her trip to France would be jeopardized .  He told me that was too "harsh"  My eyes are rolling so hard I am getting a head ache. 

Of course the girls didn't get back here til after 9 PM and sure as heck were not in the mood to help me at that time of night.  As expected RJ was going on about needing the laptop.  I told her sure, after she tidied up the ktichen that was spotless until she walked into the door and had to have a snack. Well, she never came back for the laptop so I am just guessing when I go downstairs my kitchen will still be a disaster zone.  sigh...

And yes... point well taken, when RJ is at his house, I have zero control  But when the calls from teachers come to my house and I have her during the week, oh baby the buck will stop with me.


Anonymous said...

Absolutely. You control the buck when you can. Skipping classes is obviously not good and if it could jeopardize her trip that is just nuts. I think you did the right thing contacting her teachers. Harsh? I think not so much.

Just imagine how much you will love your house when it is all finished up. You will be dancing a joyful dance soon, girlfriend.

love and hugs,
~ b

Rudy said...

For the record, I don't think you are being too harsh either with the computer and phone or with the trip to France.

Too many kids in today's world get rewarded for bad behaviour.

If I were to tell this to my kids they wouldn't so much as bat an eye.

They have to have structure. If they don't follow the rules of the house how can we expect them to follow rules in society?

MarieA said...

Rudy said "If they don't follow the rules of the house how can we expect them to follow rules in society?" And that is what I asked XSU and no surprise - I don't believe I ever had an answer from him.

Yep Blondie the house is nearly done. Windows being installed this week. Things are lookin good

Lily on the Road said...

This weekend, (Saturday and Sunday) is kick your crap to the curb, stick a free sign on it and see what walks away. That's what I'm going to do (if I can get help bringing said crap up from the basement).

Stick to your guns girl, no change, no trip....

Rudy said...

The new windows are gonna be nice. A couple of mine have broken seals and there is moisture and dust in between the panes. It sometimes doesn't pay to clean them LOL

Plus, the house will feel warmer this winter.

And XSU is a teacher huh? Really has a mind for the future citizens it seems. I wonder if he has unruly students in his classroom and makes the connection with discipline and structure at home.....