Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

March 19, 2010

It's all drama

A woman is alone at home. We arrive on the scene as she watches her daughter leave the house . The daughter is going to her dad's place. In her mother's car, of course.

The woman picks up the phone and dials a number. As she waits for a response to her call, she checks out the freezer for something to eat. Cherry perogies. oh YUM.

"Oh hi, it's me. " She always says "it's me" rather than "It's Marie". It's just odd. She doesn't know if he has caller ID or not but doesn't care. He knows who "me" is.

" I would like Rebel to live with you for a while. I am tired of her boyfriend, her dog and her frankly! "

"How long would a little while be," he responds. She takes the phone from her ear, gives it WTF look, takes a deep breath and tries to respond civilly. She then takes a sip of the Dalwhinnie out of her special crystal whiskey glass - fortitude.

"I really don't know. All I know is that I need a break. I'm having a very tough time getting any respect. I feel like I am living with a bad college room mate who can't be bothered doing much of anything . Never mind her dog and her boyfriend. It's just too much."

"Well, says the man on the other end of the phone, " I suppose she can come here. How soon? My place isn't very big. I don't know if I could let her stay here for very long."

Time for another WTF look at the phone. Deep breath. Zen. Stay calm. Another bigger sip of whiskey!

" I suspect an entire family grew up in that house so having your daughter and her dog shouldn't be that big a deal. She is your daughter after all. "

He proceeds to ask a lot of questions asking about the issues, and in a very lame way starts up with the "you shoulds" You know how that goes - You should try, you should do blah blah yada yada. She remembers she isn't married to him any more and the 'you shoulds' slide off her shoulders and seem to melt away.

"Well how long would you expect her to stay with me?" he asks again.

Exasperated, she responds " as long as it takes" The sips of whiskey are starting to turn into gulps!

"as long as it takes?" he asks.

"yeah... as long as it takes." she responds again.

" I'll see what I can do," They end the conversation berating the daughter's BF agreeing he is not of good character and is probably using the girl in any number of ways.


it's all drama. But he'll take the girl. For longer than he thinks.

It will probably mean paying some child support thinks the woman - but the exchange of money for peace of mind seems to be a fair trade.


Rudy said...

paying child support for a 20yo? or for RJ?

last call I got from ex started with "it's me....xxxxx" and even with the name it took a couple of moments to figure out who "me" was LMAO

The "you shoulds" needed to be turned into "why don't you show me how its done then?" In the words of Rush - show, don't tell.

for better and for worse, my daughter ignores me and I return the favor

stick to your guns


blondie16 said...

So he says he will take the girl and her little dog too but will she comply with your request that she move out? And then there is the boyfriend.

I am happy to read that you had this conversation with him and that perhaps he is indeed stepping up, albeit reluctantly. Don't back down.

love, hugs and happy tgif!
~ b