Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

July 12, 2011

Summer news blast - restructuring continues

Here we are half into July already. It’s been some great hot weather and I’ve been doing my best to enjoy it. Here we go with a few short items for your reading and perhaps commenting pleasure.

Rebel continues to enjoy her life with the Loser BF. She has had her ups and downs with that man and with her jobs. School is coming along sort of, if she could just figure out what it is she really wants to do. I don’t think she really knows herself yet. But Loser BF doesn’t really help in that regard.

Rebel Junior graduated from high school will be starting university in the Fall. While she wanted to go to Nova Scotia, the money isn’t there. She’ll do just fine at one of the two local universities. And she is becoming excited about starting, so that’s a good thing. She was not a very nice daughter during her graduation and prom activities. I wanted pictures and she tore off without letting me get any. I wasn’t impressed. Both Rebel and I let her know that her behaviour was selfish. Alas, 20 years down the road when she doesn’t have any memories of her grad – will be when she kicks her self and realizes what a brat she was. I expect to be around to hear her say it too!

XSU has left for the summer. He’s done east to the ancestral home. Why I have no idea. Both his parents died this spring – about 6-8 weeks apart I believe. I was able to attend the MIL’s funeral service. XSU turned up in blue jeans. Seriously. Thank goodness he’s not my problem any longer. Given that both parents are gone I am not sure why he needed to spend the entire summer away from home. There really isn’t much reason for him to be there except I guess he doesn’t have any friends here anyway so he may as well leave.

I am on the hook with both girls – Rebel needing a car once in a while as the LBF doesn’t own one – nothing changed there.

RJ works in an industrial part of town in a new shopping complex and I don’t like her taking the bus at night – too isolated, so evenings one of us would pick her up. Seems it’s my job for the summer.

XSU is apparently buying out two of his siblings and taking over the parental home. So it appears he’s spending more money on that house than the one he has here. BOTH need a ton of work, but again, I step away and just roll my eyes at his judgement. The good thing with him being gone is I am the one helping RJ with her university course selection and stuff – much better as XSU would send her off on some weird tangents while mine will only be half weird.

And speaking of weird! I’ve had dreams about XSU – while sleeping over at The Beau’s house. Not really sleeping over as with RJ at home I am not comfortable being out when she is at home. I have been known to wake up at 5:30 AM at my house and walk over to The Beau’s and crawl into bed with him for some….. time together shall see say. Yes I have a key. I fell asleep this past Sunday morning and had a bazillion weird short dreams which starred XSU. Don’t remember much about them except that when I woke up I was a tad freaked out. Hmmmm wonder what this means?

And speaking of The Beau, he’ll be joining me out west this August as I get through a week of union convention business then we move on to meet “the uncles” and a few friends. Should be a good time.

I’ve been missing Ukrainian camp again this year. I really should have just booked the “Shangri-La” cabin that was the cook’s domain and no children allowed party room and invited folks out to join me. Next summer. Most definitely on the plan. Funny how years of spending time in the same way is missed when it doesn’t happen.

There’s talk of living together. Though not yet. Not ready to go there at the moment. Spending time together while me sleeping in my own house, works for me for now.


blondie16 said...

So happy to hear that your reconstructing is moving along nicely.

You are so very lucky that The Beau lives so close. As long as what you have going right now is working try not to fret over whats next. You will know when it is time to change it up.

I am sorry you are missing your Ukrainian Camp. It has been such a huge part of your summer for so long that it is understandable that you would feel the loss. Maybe you should borrow a girl and go anyways.

At least the girls can count on you to be there for them. Even though it seems {or is} that they don't appreciate it - they will when they look back on it some day. Those idiot X's are just that. Idiots!

Take care, Marie.
love and hugs,
~ blondie

Lily on the Road said...

Hey, I commented here the other day...hmmmmmmm, where did it go?

Oh well, happy to read things are ticking along!

Talk soon?