Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

December 06, 2009

Sunday Snippets

Rebel and her BF moved back in. Apparently the uncle they were living with went into alcoholic binges 1N1 vaccinand gave Rebel a hard time about everything. So much for my peace and quiet. They left her dog with him, because he does seem to like him more than I do. I hate to say it, but I am missing my quiet house. I did put the BF to work as soon as he crossed the threshold of my house. 

XSU has been talking to Rebel. I know I cannot control what he says, but really, the man needs a friend instead of talking to his kids about our issues. He really needs to shut up. He told her he stopped doing anything in the house on his lawyer's advice. And what was the big deal anyway... it's just a house. While I didn't quite lose it I did fire back to Rebel and I imagine it will get back to  XSU that - that was always his problem. He lived in a house while I wanted a home and he could never see the difference and never had any pride in what his place looked like. I am working on the "whatEvEr" part of all this. 

It can be pretty hard biting my tongue to keep my opinion of the girls' father to myself. It ain't easy, but it's the way it has to be. I went looking for an extension cord to use for the Christmas house lights. XSU took every freakin extension cord with him. WTF!?!?! sigh.... That's okay I have his hundered dollar hammer. I don't plan on "finding" it and returning it any time soon. Bitchy? Perhaps.

I am behind on several projects. I was working on a photo directory for the church. Photos of all the families. The company took most of the pictures. I had to scan some photos where people couldn't get to sittings - the last 10 photos are just not getting done.  I have to get this thing done. 

Then there's the course I am teaching in January. I don't have more than a week or two left and the programme coordinator is looking for it. This is really important. I have to teach this thing and won't be able to if I don't have a decent outline to work from. 
If there is anything worse than getting a needle it's getting two.  One in each arm.  I got the H1N1 shot - and the regular flu shot.  The H1N1 arm still hurts a day later.  It's quite tender.  Rebel Jr is refusing to get any flu shot.  I need to work on her and get her to get this done.  It's not easy. 

The house is finally lit up for the holidays. I LOVE coloured lights. Once the snow falls, the light will really look all sparkly and bright.  Christmas is coming.


Anonymous said...

Yikes. But at least they didn't bring the dog. And HELL yes, put his ass to work.

XSU is talking to her because he needs her on his side. For what, I have no idea. He doesn't want her to see him for who he really is. No reason to not put your side out there as well since he opened that door. Just the facts though. She knows who her father is, she knows what he has and hasn't done.

I LOL'd about the hammer. The only thing I still have of the X's that I am aware of is his collection of Fire Christmas ornaments. They were packed away and he never asked for them. He would have and will now have to deal with the kid if he actually wants them. {I heard from the girl that he has spent much time and money replacing his collection}

SO happy to hear your house is lit up. Mine not so much. The marrieds will be here this weekend and I am hoping that the kid and mr married will take care of that.

Happy Monday.

love and hugs,
~ blondie

Rudy said...

Even the facts didn't work for me. Daughter claimed that she defended me to her mom and her mom's friends yet claimed that I was the one causing problems. My therapist said no talking about the failed marriage with the kids. This, as you point out, is very very hard to separate after 22 years etc. So I implemented a don't ask, don't tell policy. The trouble was, daughters life was so involved with the Ex that she soon had virtually nothing to say to me that didn't involve her mom some how.

I don't see her much any more. *sigh*

on the plus side, after 5 years post divorce signing circumstances prompted Ex to phone me about travel arrangements for son and I did not recognize Ex's voice. bwahahahahahaha

Lily on the Road said...

Oh Rudy! LOL...