Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

January 29, 2010

He's not on my radar.

It's been a busy week.  Between board meetings, and this teaching gig, and now not sleeping well at night, I am not accomplishing much else in my off time.  I finally was tired last night and fell asleep at 9 PM.

This evening Rebel went out with her friends and expected me to come pick her up.  I told her that her adult self should not be depending on mommy for a ride.  I told her to call the boyfriend from where ever he went and he could do the honours.  She was not impressed.  WhatEV.

I took Rebel Junior to a final details meeting before her travel date to France.  XSU was there before us.  RJ said to me, "There's Dad"   I asked "Where?"  I couldn't see him in the crowd for the life of me.  He's so non descript to me now that I can't pick him out of a crowd.  He's all black and grey looking and I have no radar for him at all. 
I guess that's a good thing.

A friend's daughter from our church is going on this same exchange as RJ and at the end of the presentation she came over and we started to chat.  XSU interrupted - something he is very good at , and started asking me questions about the latest cheque he expected from me from the health plan and blah blah...  I couldn't believe it, but I should have.  I looked at him and told him I was busy chatting and he could take it up on email or wait.  He continued TO TALK!!!!  So I took Natalia's arm and looked at him and said "I am busy right now," and we walked away.   Natlaia looked at me and said " no sense of time or place eh?  Roman (her husband) noticed this about him a long time ago, but course we would never have said anything.   Ach!  you can do better!" 

And of course XSU couldn't wait til I was done.  As it was I had sent a cheque in an envelope  with RJ and she never bothered giving to him even though she sees him daily. 


Lily on the Road said...

Okay, I'm speechless... well not really....Rebel GROW UP!

XSU...GROW UP...!!!

as for skating on the canal, let me know, I'll have to get skates, can you believe I don't own skates...

RJ, grow up while you are in France!!!

that is all...


MarieA said...

let's find you some rentals Lily... less stress and money spent for one skate on the canal. I'd offer you one of the pairs at my place but if I recall you have basket ball player feet to our size 6 feet! (-:
and not THIS weekend.. sheesh we'd be popsicle inside of two minutes!

Lily on the Road said...

Rental? maybe, but I'm such a germaphobe, I might just get my own.

this weekend will be spent skiing / snowshoeing...the gang are getting together for a Full Moon trek...

Anonymous said...

So the grown up *I can do what I want when I want to, you are not the boss of me* daughter needed a ride home, eh? Excellent that you told her to phone the boyfriend. Sucks to be her. She can't have it both ways.

Life is easier when the X is off one's radar. That being said, perhaps relying on RJ to deliver things to him isn't the way to go. Put it in the post from now on.

It is pretty funny when they {the X's} show their true colours out in public. My idiot X likes to fall all over himself to greet Rudy while ignoring me. Cracks me the Hell up!

Happy Friday, Marie.
love and hugs,
~ blondie

Rudy said...

b, your ex still feels the need to impress me. God only knows why. I am so not impressed but I love putting him on the spot and making him do extra chores at the marrieds etc, helping to move the piano. bwahahahaha. cuz yanno, he can't let me do all the work and look bad in front of the kids.

I also agree that miss I can do what I want can just find her own damn rides, any time she wants. And if bf isn't going to help her out, then maybe he isn't bf material after all.

Got a call from the ex this fall concerning tickets for the son to come home. Really, it was between he and me and it was none of her concern but she felt the need to call me. I TOTALLY did NOT recognize her voice. I was still trying to figure out who she was when she started talking about son's tickets. Now THAT was sweet!