Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

February 22, 2010

Dating? Not so much.

I keep getting asked "are you dating yet? Been out with anyone yet? Seeing anyone?" OY! AS IF.

There just aren't enough hours in the day to do what I need to do - when I am not wasting time playing Bejewelled on Face Book that seriously I haven't had time to even think about dating.

I am sure I'd like to... have someone in my life. Dating? Not so much. I mean really - I have thighs that are filled with cellulite, I don't have all my own teeth, I am rather opinionated, like my space, and getting through a date fills me with dread. Complete and utter dread.

The good thing is I don't have time to think about it for now
Perhaps as time goes on and I feel the need for companionship I will get there. But for now? Freakin busy, enjoying my friends, and taking it a day at a time.


Lily on the Road said...

Dating is a process.

A) you are not going to meet someone playing Bejewled. (I know, I play it too).

B) internet dating is skanky.

C) best to meet someone by doing what you like doing and not scrapbooking with girlfriends, but by being YOU.

D) you will meet someone when you are ready, in the mean time, go to functions with friends, you just never know who may be there.

These are all the things I have learned by being single for eleven years! LOL

Rudy said...

I didn't date for a while, actually I never dated.

I went to group events and had a good time. It was kind of a bummer when there were couples and I wasn't one of them but it was never THAT bad.

One benefit I had was a good friend of the female persuasion that went with me to music events at the performing arts center. In a way, they were practice dates and I asked her for feedback to see how I would be doing if it "were a date"

On the plus side I got good feedback. On the downside, we were already pals so she may have been overlooking something that someone new might not cuz she already knew my quirks. One thing that I found very surprising was that I was actually nervous the first few times with someone I already knew! Like she said "it's only me, no need to be nervous". that may have been not having anxiety meds adjusted LOL

as for internet dating, you know how I met my blondie. it has definitely worked out well for us. I know i would have been too shy to walk across the room the and strike up a conversation.

I know of a couple people who have met on the webs and it has been good. I don't recall if any of them used any "services"

so I guess my advice is just do what needs to be done and even though people will ask about it, don't let it bother you. My response was always a simple nope, not yet. When they asked why not, I would just shrug and say time isn't right yet. then drop it.

Like Lily says, just do what you do and have fun cuz you want someone who wants the real you

hang in there,

MarieA said...

nice thoughts Rudy. Thank you. (-: