Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

May 11, 2010

Go to your room!

I don't know WHY I am so pissed off, but I am. I came home today and my lawn was cut. I THOUGHT it was the girl I hired to cut my lawn but indeed it wasn't. It was the Rebel's BF. And right away, Rebel came out and told me to "please go and thank my BF - he cut your lawn. " And I was pissed off.

I told her - I've hired someone to cut my lawn for the season and I don't NEED your BF to be doing me any favours.

This is not the first time he's gone and done something that made me burn. While I was out of town, he took my car and "fixed" something that was wrong with it. So he says. Ford still charged me a cool 1K when I took it in for a service job.

Perhaps I am being irrational. Perhaps not. What seriously ticked me was Rebel who kept saying to me, 'You should thank my BF, you should thank him for doing this for you."

I DIDN'T ask him to cut my lawn. I do NOT want him cutting my lawn, or doing any thing else for me. If he wants to do something I want to be asked in advance. And then I will more than likely say no, because, frankly, it's far too late in this relationship to get into my good graces. I am not interested in his help.

I think my total negative reaction is partly because this young man in personality is a lot like the XSU. That need for recognition - that need to told how wonderful he is. And that underlying attitude that I - as a woman - couldn't possibly manage my little head with things like lawn mowers and cars. It's that attitude of superiority I got from XSU on occasion that sneaks out of the Rebel's BF. I don't like it, and I really don't want to put up with it - from anyone.

THEN I walked into the house and there were 6 bags of groceries on the kitchen floor. Apparently the girls aren't happy with the groceries I buy - so they managed to get their dad to buy stuff. They rarely add items to the running grocery list I keep on the fridge so I get what I get. I left the groceries on the floor and hoped at least one of the two dogs got into the bags. That made me feel a little better.

So I have locked myself in my room. No entrance allowed. My girls do this when they are annoyed, or just generally want to annoy me. I thought I'd try it. They most certainly are not impressed with me. Totally not impressed. And there 's the thing. I haven't had any dinner and I am starving. So isolating myself isn't working very well at the moment. Do I go back down stairs, miss Glee and find some food? Do I get in my car and find some kind of tolerable fast food - if there is such a thing and spend money I'd rather not spend?

Daughter drama. Idiot boy friends trying to get into my good graces in the worst possible way. And - a grumbling stomach. No worries, though the crankiness ends soon.


blondie16 said...

Dang. Did you go get something to eat? I would have. No way would any bratty child keep me from food and booze.

I would have marched out there ignoring anyone and everyone, gotten what I wanted and silently returned to my room. However I would have slammed my door once I was in, for emphasis. tee hee!

Kids. Can't live with 'em, can't get the idiot SU to do so either.

love and hugs,
~ b

Rudy said...

Thank you mr. BF for wasting money I had already spent on an arrangement for lawn care. Oh btw, how many times did you thank me for a roof over your head, food in your belly, and tolerating the dog you bestowed on daughter? (just to mention a few)

quit kissing my ass, your lips are chapped and they are making me itch.

Lily on the Road said...

Here is my take on this;

Don't let the monkey's manage the zoo. YOU are the adult here, no need to lock yourself in your room, Kick them OUT.

It is a case of too little too late, you certainly don't see any of this sh*t going down at XSU's place, no, because they can't get away with it there, that is why they have so well ensconced themselves into your place.

Well BFF may have good or most likely not so good intentions, he is an adult behaving like a 16 year old. GET OUT!!!

Okay, I'm going to have my morning coffee now.....swishing away in my bunny slippers....