Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

May 31, 2010

SMoke and be gone!

I am getting ready to leave for my big conference which is in Edmonton this year. I've decided to leave my car in the driveway but take the keys with me. This will drive Rebel into a spin. Her 22 yr old non adult behavior the past few days has made me decide that she is NOT driving my vehicle. Besides, she has no gas money. She also has a BF who for some reason, calls himself her "hubby" but takes none of the responsibility associated with that term. I for one, always thought it meant "chauffeur" for starters.

Rebel Junior and the dog will make their way to XSU's place. He said he'd take the dog and the kid. Both the kid and the dog will eat properly if there.

Rebel is pissed off at me, because I told her BF - again- that I did NOT want him sleeping at my house. What is it with 31 yr old men with no shame, no understanding that if he wants me to like him, never mind respect him, which is so far from happening it's just not possible, that he doesn't get that what the Rebel says to him doesn't count for squat?! He needs to pay attention to me.

I have also told him he is no longer allowed to smoke in my garage, or anywhere near my house for that matter. I told him if he thinks I am bitch, he'd better take a close look at his girlfriend, who is me, now and in another 10 years. So, move it along and be gone! What is it with this guy?


Rudy said...

um feck yeah! This is a no smoking premises. If it is too inconvenient or uncomfortable to go away from the house and entryways to smoke then maybe give up smoking (which you really can't afford anyway)

and seriously about the mother thing. I really should have paid attention to the ex's mother and how she saw the world and marriage. what they did and didn't do in their marriage is what the ex thought marriage should be.

Lily on the Road said...

:What is with this guy?:

He won't be moving along any time soon, he loves the drama he is causing, he's never had anyone fight over him nor give him so much attention in his life.

You are a meal ticket and I hate to say this Rebel plays right into his sick twisted mind + free sex.

Why is he NOT paying for her drug costs, food, new clothes, sheets, towels, school, the list goes on...Why not? Because no one makes him, he can sit and do dick on a stick with his dick on a stick and he is not held accountable. At 31 he has it made....
no responsibilities


he gets to watch while he pulls you two apart.

Don't think that they don't have an extra set of keys for the car dawlink.....think twice.

Anonymous said...

What is with this guy is that he knows his behaviour has been tolerated because of Rebel. He is taking advantage of that and will continue to do so. He has no shame so don't even go there.

Smoking around a person who has had a heart transplant? Yeah, that's a guy who is concerned about his *wife* for sure.

Sit 'em both down and lay it out. Rebel will be mad at you but she has been mad at you before and will be mad at you again. Obviously you can't control their lives but you can control what goes on in your house and with your car.
This can't be an *OMG your fiance is crap* kind of talk but rather focus on the fact that they are adults and need to start acting like it and supporting themselves in every way as a couple.

Praying daily that Rebel sees this idiot for who he is and finds a way to make the break from him.

love and hugs,
~ blondie