Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

June 06, 2011

TOP 10 PLUS ONE in restructuring

Being preoccupied is not a bad way to live. It’s been a few weeks since last I posted. How about a Top 10 list of the things I’ve been up to recently on the ole restructuring front.

1. A month after father law died, mother in law passed away. I managed to attend the funeral as I had been planning on being on the East Coast anyway. I checked with the SIL who wanted me to be there. I was glad to be there for the girls and my SIL. Interesting side note – would you believe that XSU wore blue jeans to both his parents’ funerals?!?! Seriously. My personal theory – XSU has really packed on the pounds – beer weight I’d say. Probably doesn’t fit into his dress pants any longer and is too lazy or can’t be bothered to shop.

2. Real reason for heading to the East Coast – grad school reunion. Had a great time. We received our 30 year pins from the University who also hosted us at a reception.

3. Week previous to East Coast trip was prairie trip to attend High School Anniversary and reunion. Spent the weekend with all the girls I grew up with. Another great time. We picked up and kept on going without missing a beat. It was wonderful. We’re all still alive, healthy and enjoying each other’s company. My dad- oy! Not going well. Physically he’s strong but he’s totally losing his marbles – cognitive impairment they say. Can’t have a conversation with him. He has nothing to say. He’ll be 80 this year.

4. Left RJ home alone. Same old. Same old. Left me a mess to clean up. I turned off her blackberry until she cleaned up the worst of it.

5. Union meetings for a week downtown last week. I stayed at a hotel. The Beau came with me, and we spent the week together. RJ was sent to her father’s house, and I totally lied and said I wouldn’t be home until Saturday. I spent two extra days with The Beau at his place down the street. Bonus day added when RJ decided not to come home on Saturday.

6. Met several members of The Beau’s extended family over breakfast on Sunday. That went well. His grandkids like me. I like them too, even though they spilled grape juice all over my pale yellow jeans last week. No worries, I got it all out. Between Shout, lemon juice and bleach – you’d never know.

7. The Beau hasn’t met any of my close friends or family as yet. He’ll be coming to Calgary with me for a union convention. The Uncles and cousins will be there. Must have fondue dinner with close girlfriends and The Beau. Soon. Eh Lily?

8. My car is falling apart around me. If I didn’t have the credit card debt that I do have, I’d be shopping yesterday. So far, the list includes, water pump, starter, muffler, brakes (again), wheel bearings, and some kind of whatzit behind the steering column. It’s always something.

9. The Beau has been seeing more action than my treadmill these past few months. NOT a good thing as too many pairs of my summer capris are too damn snug. I’ve told him he’ll be seeing less action so I can deal with the thighs, unless he can figure out a way for the action to be as productive as a treadmill. He’s thinking on it and apparently researching.

10. I’ve started working a compressed work week. I have to work an extra 50 minutes daily in order to have every second Friday off. Don’t know why I didn’t do this years ago. It’s fantastic. Keeping track of all the exclusions of when and how I need to work the 50 minutes is a bit of a pain, but all in all I am happy to NOT be at work. Arriving at 8 AM is killing me, and by 4 ish I am going into brain mush, but it’s only week 4 after several weeks not in routine, so I keep expecting things to get better. And by my Friday off – they are MUCH better.

BONUS 11 – more about the relationship with The Beau another time. I just re read the first post I wrote about him after learning his wife died. WOW! How did this ever work out the way it did? While I said it, I really didn’t believe it.


Rudy said...

glad to hear things are going well with beau since you haven't been around much ;-)

I used to work a compressed schedule. loved it. have I mentioned my boss is a boss-hole lol

why not introduce him to close friends and family?

MarieA said...

Hey Rudy.
Close friends... just hasn't happened yet and indeed it is about time. I have to have the dinner at my place and just haven't gotten around to it.

My family all lives elsewhere so we have to get those elsewheres for the meetings to happen. He'll be meeting the uncles this summer - my mom's brothers and my cousins so that is a good start.

Rudy said...

distance - what a pain sometimes. Luckily, my folks winter in AZ so blondie has met them. She has chatted and spoken on the phone with a couple of siblings and has virtually met everyone through the family football league.

I just bought tickets today to fly to WI for the folks' 50th so she'll meet the whole damn home town at the open house LOL

and, of course, I got to meet her whole family at daughters wedding :-) nothing like jumping into the deep end

Here's hoping you get the opportunities this summer

Anonymous said...

So nice to read that your life with The Beau {I like this name for him} is going so well.

I see that the rest of your life is about the same; RJ, your car and your crazy busy life. You sound so happy. I like.

I worry about my dad and when he will get to that point. He will be 76 in November. Thus far, in spite of my idiot brother trying to get him diagnosed as having Alzheimers, he really seems to be doing well in that respect. I am sending good thoughts and prayers for you and your dad.

love ya, girlfriend.
~ b

Anonymous said...

Well, well, well, thinking are looking rather upbeat!!

Good news and I'm really happy for you!

ya, let's meet, however, it'll have to be in-between swimming, cycling & running...seriously, I'm into heavy training right now.

Maybe a Thursday evening, after a run at the local running store...just a quick hi or a Sunday after a really long run. I'll be sweaty and sore, but the real me!

chat soon, again, I'm SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!